My aunt took in my grandmother for several years. My mother said it was "really hard on Sis." I am sure that is an understatement.
Still, what about Grandma, wasn't it hard on her too? She was leaving her home of many years, the home she had been in when Grandpa was alive. She lost contact with familiar faces, places and scenes.
If you're about to transition an elderly relative into your home, you're both facing big changes. What can you do to help the person you're caring for transition, and how can you help yourself? Remember The Golden Years Rule: It will be me someday, how will I want to be treated?
Interestingly, as I did my research I found that most sources concerned with the elderly and where they will live do not mention often, if at all, moving in with children or other relatives.
Elderly people who need to move into another's home experience many emotions. Depression, grief, insult, shame, anger and guilt are some of the possible feelings they may have. They have experienced a loss.
Imagine you are suddenly told you are going to steadily decline in ability and will need to rely on a family member to help you. You will not be able to live as you do now or where you are now. The thought alone makes one feel a bit sad.
You can help the transition in many ways.